SingleNights

Ever wondered on how to turn a bootycall into a boyfriend? or have you come across this question yourself from friends, or from forums written by women all over the world? What exactly does the answer depend on? Would you want to know your chance to make it happen? Well read on, I have written this answer based on consultation with many male friends out there ranging from the stable relationship boy material to the player material. So here it is:

Alright, it depends on how the relationship was started. What it means is that, if you started by having a one nighter with him, then instead of ending it there, you both followed up by having the many more infrequent night stands, then you are probably in what is called as the true bootycall relationship. When you have this, unfortunately it is going to be very hard to turn this bootycall into a boyfriend.

However, the good news is that there is a way to figure out if it may happen in the not-so-far-away future. You can find out what is the chance he actually entertains the whole relationship idea – if any – as soon as you stop being a bootycall to him. Does he think that it might be a good idea to take you out on a real date? Of course, I know it’s not that easy to simply stop being a bootycall to him.

So how can you do that though? The easy answer to that is to hold back on the intimacy, just make sure some of the so-called catch-ups are actually real dates. And if you are not sure, real dates include dinner, movie, spending quality time together and it does not necessarily include intimacy in the end of the night. In fact, if that’s going to be your first actual date, then make sure that there is no intimacy that night. But what if he takes too slow to take you out on real date? Well it’s simple. Ask him! I said that right, you can ask a guy out on a date.

Then see how he reacts to that – if you one way or another manage to ask him out for a date with a real conversation. Basically, he will MAKE time if he is interested, and he’ll make up excuses ranging from the lamest to the coolest to avoid the actual date if he’d rather keep the bootycall status intact. If he’s keen, your chance to turn this bootycall into a boyfriend has gotten higher. If not though, just move on and don’t waste time with this man, because plenty more fish in the sea.

Look, I realise it may not sound very fair, unlike women, men don’t usually change mind in terms of whether or not they want to get into a relationship with a certain woman (in this case, ). A lot of women think that if they do a certain set of things, they may be able to change a guy’s focus from just bootycall to getting a relationship, but that’s not true. If he’s not ready or just plainly emotionally unavailable, it’s impossible to change that fact.

Don’t start thinking that a man will get closer to a woman after he sleeps with her. Of course, he would get closer to her physically and to an extent, but he is still a stranger emotionally. Men have two different compartments in their head i.e. physical intimacy and relationship. So really, you are asking a separate question altogether i.e. “Is he interested to be my boyfriend, or am I only a bootycall?