Three Lessons To Make Your Conversations More Stimulating
“All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction.”
- Marya Mannes
If you’ve ever wanted to be the guy who could turn up the seduction knob in your nightly conversations, then you’re going to have to do exactly what you’re about to read. Next time you’re out at nightclub, take a look at the shoes the girl nearest to you is wearing. Now take a look at yours. They’re different, right?
Think to yourself, if I was wearing those shoes, what would a person say to me. A person who is interesting, can capture the mind of any person, just by talking to them. Why? The key to stimulating conversation, is the ability to see yourself from someone else’s perspective. Think about it. The next time you talk to a women, do you come across as interesting or just another boring guy.
Next time your talking to a women, remember these three skills to take your conversations to the next level.
1. Listen and Think Before You Talk
“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.”
” Ernest Hemmingway
Pay Attention! It may be shocking to most men, but women have things to say too! What she says can tell you a lot about who she is, if you know how to listen. There is a recipe for seduction hidden in everything a person says and does. Listen to her stories; a good social artist can learn volumes about a person by simply paying attention to what someone says.
- Listen to the words they use, the topics they bring up, and the topics they respond to. Then ask yourself, “Why is this person saying what they are saying? What does our conversation tell me about this person?”
- Have a purpose to your response. When you truly listen to a person, you will know what is important and what is not important.
- Your opinion is your greatest asset or your biggest liability. “Will my opinion, damage this discussion?” Is a question that needs to be answered before you state your opinion.
2. Have passion behind what you are saying
“Feelings! I don’t go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!”
” Henry Rollins
Emotions are everything to seduction. Use your words wisely. The right words, when used correctly, open up a persons feelings. Being genuine and curious about what a person says opens up a world of possibilities.
- Use your head. Think about the conversation you have been having so far. Ask yourself, “What affects this person on a deeper level?”
- Being aware of her feelings and emotions, will make you stand out in her mind. In your conversation with her, look for pieces of information that reveal her feelings.
3. Complement her with poise and intent.
“The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves.”
” Dame Edith Sitwell
Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is having the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she has “amazing eyes” wont get you anywhere, because she’s already been complimented on them thousands of times. You’re just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and shell never forget you.
- Use your compliments to ease any insecurities and doubts they have about themselves.
- Do not compliment the obvious. “You have a beautiful smile,” should be exchanged with, “You have a very good sense of style.”
- A big mistake most men make, is to sexualize their compliments.
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