This One Easy To Learn Skill Could Save Your Marriage
Active listening could be the very element it takes to save your marriage. But, you may be asking, “What the heck is active listening?” Let’s take a look.
When you are engaged in a conversation what goes on? Are you constantly thinking of multiple story-lines at the same time? Formulating your response? Measuring? Calculating? If so, you are NOT engaging in active listening.
When you stop allowing outside distraction to divert your attention, when you fully engage your partner with all of your senses and being, you are participating in the active listening? Does it sound simple to you? It is anything but.
What’s the big fuss about active listening?
When troubles in marriage begin, you’ll do just about anything – if you care enough – to solve the problem. Active listening is a skill that goes beyond the usual confines of a marriage, however. The benefits are huge and could impact your entire life. Active listening allow you to establish a bond it a relationship where your partner feels heard, really heard. And, once your partner sees you doing something differently the door opens for them as well. A whole new relationship for you both could then be created.
Shut up and listen
Everyone likes to talk, express and be heard. But it is skill to listen. And, actually, I believe it be a mark of greatness. And when you listen to understand, really understand, then people flock to you in droves. Who doesn’t want to be heard? The next time you find yourself in an intense confrontational situation, sit back and remind yourself to listen and see if it doesn’t make a difference.
How do I actively listen?
When it is important to you to communicate, pick a time and place where they are not any distractions that will interrupt you. Don’t be on the Internet and talking to your mate about something important. Don’t be paying the bills and trying to have a conversation at the same time. If it’s important, give them your all. Doesn’t your relationship deserve that?
If you’d like to add an extra bonus to your active listening, try sharing a pleasant memory with your loved one. This doesn’t have to big, momentous occasion. It could a vacation memory. A time when the two of you laughed at something unexpectedly. It could a movie you both really enjoyed. If you combine active listening with intimate sharing, you have a great chance to save your marriage or any relationship that holds value for you.
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