There are actions you can employ to make a good get-together into a great party. Once you’ve taken care of the basic necessities, food, drinks, and music, it’s time to take things to the next level with some proper party-planning.

Question #1: Why are you having the party?

Why this party? Finding value in any party, makes that party that much better. If you need an excuse to add value for your party, check out the website Google Earth Calendar. This site give you reason to party everyday.

When all else fails make something up! People like to party! In the book, Influence, using the word “because,” smooths the progress of inviting people and making them feel comfortable. “Hey. I’m throwing a party because my friend is leaving to join the Navy.” People know parties are fun, and throwing the party for your friend who is leaving adds value.

Question #2: What is the theme?

A party only gets better with a theme. Trouble, a Stylelife student who used to throw parties for a living added, “People got buck-wild at the Playboy mansion just because we handed out bunny ears.” A party with a theme, is a party that people will remember.

Question #3: What is your big surprise?

People like surprises! Have a surprise waiting for your guests, and don’t tell anyone. A good surprise will linger in your guests minds for a long period of time. Use your imagination to create a party that is out of the ordinary. A good surprise will last a life time.

Party on! A good party has different elements to it. If you successfully combine a party with value, a theme, and a surprise, you will have a party experience that other people will be talking about for months to come.

“Something is different about you,” she said while peering at me with a quizzed look in her eye. She continued “It’s that fresh look, like when you notice somebody got a haircut, but that can’t be it, because your hair is the same as always. Maybe you grew taller. Wait, that doesn’t make sense.”

The moment people notice your new hair cut, is the moment you start to look at yourself in a new light. The idea is to change your personal style one article at a time and use that momentum to carry your life in a new “better” direction.

Getting a hair cut is just the beginning. The energy that radiates from you, that other people feel, is freely available to anyone looking to transform into something better.

You don’t have to be born with any specific talent, but you must be prepared to work to rise to the top of your personal capabilities. Here are 5 tips to get you started:

TIP #1: Embrace the Pain

Your are going to feel vulnerable. Any time you take on a new life altering task in your personal life, you are going to feel susceptible. Remember anything worth doing, is going to take time, practice, and patience. Get ready to fall and try again.

Quoting Arnold Schwarzenegger, “The last three or four reps is what makes the muscles grow. This area of pain divides a champion from someone who is not a champion. That’s what most people lack, having the guts to go on and just say they’ll go through the pain no matter what happens.”

Vow to push past the pain, and you will be one step closer to achieving greatness.

ACTION #2: Take Off the Lid

Stop questioning what you “can” and “cant” do. Just do. The majority of fears, anxieties, and limitations are started by self-imposed beliefs. Break the habit of limiting yourself. Start small and then aim big. You will be surprised at what you can accomplish, by talking yourself into believing you have no limitations.

Its up to you. If you believe it, you can achieve it.

ACTION #3: Understand that Obstacles are Part of the Journey

How bad do you want it? Once you come to the understanding that failure is part of the process, be ready to fail. You can only fail upward. It all depends on how bad you want something.

Embrace the unknown. Push past your comfort level. You will be surprised at how resilient you are.

TIP #4: Be a Beginner and Be an Expert

You are by no means too superior to learn something new. Learn to become humbled by new tasks that seem to complicated.

Keep an mind open. Never underestimate the fundamentals. Every opportunity and new experience is a chance to learn.

GUIDELINE #5: Dream BIG

Be humble, stay positive, and never loose focus. Embrace the failure and continue on your dream. No matter where you are from, we all dream of something better.

The older we get, the more our peers and the media destroy our dreams. When you were younger, anything was possible. Your dreams are still possible. Push beyond your limits and you dreams will become reality.

Perception is reality. Change your perception and you will achieve you dreams. You will. Start now.

“All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction.”

- Marya Mannes

If you’ve ever wanted to be the guy who could turn up the seduction knob in your nightly conversations, then you’re going to have to do exactly what you’re about to read. Next time you’re out at nightclub, take a look at the shoes the girl nearest to you is wearing. Now take a look at yours. They’re different, right?

Think to yourself, if I was wearing those shoes, what would a person say to me. A person who is interesting, can capture the mind of any person, just by talking to them. Why? The key to stimulating conversation, is the ability to see yourself from someone else’s perspective. Think about it. The next time you talk to a women, do you come across as interesting or just another boring guy.

Next time your talking to a women, remember these three skills to take your conversations to the next level.

1. Listen and Think Before You Talk

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.”

” Ernest Hemmingway

Pay Attention! It may be shocking to most men, but women have things to say too! What she says can tell you a lot about who she is, if you know how to listen. There is a recipe for seduction hidden in everything a person says and does. Listen to her stories; a good social artist can learn volumes about a person by simply paying attention to what someone says.

- Listen to the words they use, the topics they bring up, and the topics they respond to. Then ask yourself, “Why is this person saying what they are saying? What does our conversation tell me about this person?”

- Have a purpose to your response. When you truly listen to a person, you will know what is important and what is not important.

- Your opinion is your greatest asset or your biggest liability. “Will my opinion, damage this discussion?” Is a question that needs to be answered before you state your opinion.

2. Have passion behind what you are saying

“Feelings! I don’t go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!”

” Henry Rollins

Emotions are everything to seduction. Use your words wisely. The right words, when used correctly, open up a persons feelings. Being genuine and curious about what a person says opens up a world of possibilities.

- Use your head. Think about the conversation you have been having so far. Ask yourself, “What affects this person on a deeper level?”

- Being aware of her feelings and emotions, will make you stand out in her mind. In your conversation with her, look for pieces of information that reveal her feelings.

3. Complement her with poise and intent.

“The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves.”

” Dame Edith Sitwell

Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is having the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she has “amazing eyes” wont get you anywhere, because she’s already been complimented on them thousands of times. You’re just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and shell never forget you.

- Use your compliments to ease any insecurities and doubts they have about themselves.

- Do not compliment the obvious. “You have a beautiful smile,” should be exchanged with, “You have a very good sense of style.”

- A big mistake most men make, is to sexualize their compliments.

Neil Strauss and the Stylelife Coaches, have the devices to become a superiorpick up artist and be a conversation guru.