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Jim works long hours and Lisbet doesn’t feel he is there for her. Lisbet spends all of her time meeting the children’s needs and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his needs? Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved? Here’s how to save a relationship.

The first thing that you need to do is make up your mind. Ask yourself, is the relationship worth saving at all? The important thing in saving a relationship is that both parties want to work hard to save it. If the other one is not too thrilled to save the relationship, then how can it work?

A lot of couples stay in a relationship for convenience’s sake, or maybe they opt in just for the sake of the children. That is not how to fix things. Saving a relationship requires both parties to be committed to turn the situation around.

Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in how to save a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself.

For instance, people think that when one has an affair, the affair is the root cause of the problem. This is not so. The affair is just the symptom of a deeper problem in the relationship. An affair could mean that you lack intimacy in the relationship. So home in to this problem area and address it.

So talk about the fundamental issues that needs to be addressed so you can save the relationship.

Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns. Hold your partner’s hand when you are talking about your problems as a signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling. When your partner talks about things that hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants to hurt you. Rather it is because they want to improve the relationship.

When you have finished with your heart to heart talk. You need to plan a course of action and execute it. If you have time management problems then make time for each other. If you have communication problems, then spare 20 minutes every night to talk before going to sleep.

Lastly, you have to realize that saving a relationship cannot be done in a day. It’s a process that can take very long to master. As with any relationship, you’ll have laughter and you’ll have tears. Stop playing the blame game and be quick to say I’m sorry.

Is your relationship worth saving? If so, I’ve described in this article how to save a relationship.