SingleNights

When we’ve broken up with a loved one and want them back, we want it to happen fast. 15 minutes would be good, and it can happen. We don’t want it to take weeks or months as we try to let time heal their wounds.

But often you can get your ex back fast, in just a few days. Sometimes you can get your ex back in minutes. Here’s what you need to understand to accomplish this:

You broke up because something emotional happened for your ex. Their positive feelings about you have been replaced with negative ones, like anger or betrayal or broken trust. They broke up with you because negative emotions now cover over the positive ones.

To get your ex back fast – to get them back at all – you need to help them to release the bad feelings filling their heart. When you can do that, you can get your ex back sometimes in as little as 30 minutes or less.

How can you do this? How can you, who have no emotional training, help your ex to release and resolve their negative feelings towards you? There are several steps, but one of the key steps to accomplish this you already know. Its called venting or getting things off their chest.

You must help them to get their bad feelings about you off their chest. You don’t argue or justify or try to explain yourself. You let them talk and blame you and curse you if they need to. Your job is to make them feel heard.

As they do this, they are releasing these feelings. They are venting the emotional charge. They are beginning to heal. They have to do this before your apology can be accepted. They have no room in their heart to take you back until they have released most of the emotional pressure of their negative feelings about what you did.

There is a lot more to the science and art of venting, but it is a key strategy in getting your ex back in hours or minutes instead of waiting weeks or months. There are some other steps involved in getting your ex back in minutes, but this is a good start.