Accept Responsibility for Your Mistakes if You Want to Patch Things Up With Your Ex
Let’s face it; if you’re hoping to patch things up between you and your ex, then you had better be prepared for the fact that you’re going to have to face up to the truth.
As sure as eggs are eggs, making mistakes in relationships means you have to fix them and apologize for those mistakes before there can be any making up.
When you decide you want to get back with an ex, you must be ready to face not only what has gone wrong with the relationship, but also your part in the break down of the relationship.
You should also bear in mind that it won’t do any good for you to come down too hard on yourself for having made mistakes. Remember, everybody makes mistakes and it’s not the mistakes which are important, but rather high you deal with them afterwards.
So sit down on your own and take some time to go through what happened and what were the issues that led up to what happened. Don’t concern yourself too much with what you see as your ex’s mistakes, leave that for the future. Only concern yourself right now with what you can influence.
Whatever mistakes you find in your past behavior, can they be forgiven? Don’t be too eager to get down on yourself and believe that your mistakes are basically unforgivable.
You would be surprised at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So don’t think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There is always hope!
Try and pin point what was happening in your life at the time that led you to make the mistakes, especially if it was completely out of character for you. Remember what I said about facing hard truths, if you want to get back with ex, then you need to do this.
By determining what events were taking place at the time, you may well come to discover that your behavior was partly due to outside forces such as stressed, family problems, or even stress at work. Of course, if you do arrive at such a conclusion then you’ll need to discuss this in great detail with your ex.
If you discover that there were in fact no extenuating circumstances that that your mistakes were simply a result of selfishness or thoughtlessness, then you have still got a chance to fix things again. Of course it’s going to take an effort on your part but if you’re serious about getting back together again with your ex, than it needs to be done.
Once you’re satisfied that you have a clear understanding with regards to your mistakes and why you made them, then you should consider contacting your ex to arrange a meeting. For your sake as well as her, you should choose to meet each other in a public area where there are lots of people as this will discourage both of you from becoming emotional.
So, make sure that you stay calm and focused on what you want to say. Apologize and ask for forgiveness and then listen carefully to what your ex has to say.
