A Man’s Guide To Verbal Flirting, Part 7
In the last article of this series, I showed you why the use of humor was a matter or critical timing. In this article, the last in the series, I’ll show you another issue of timing that is just as important – your departure!
You’ve found a nice young lady who has been swayed by your charms all night. Sounds good right? You are doing it well… but you have to leave. Or she does.
So what should you do? Obviously, asking her out for another date would be the wise thing to do. But past simplifying things, it’s a matter of HOW you do it that makes it effective.
Many guys fumble here. It’s understandable in many cases, as most men aren’t in tune with what is happening during a flirtation anyhow. If you are aware, it’s rather easy to do, as you’ll know if she’s interested in you.
Pay attention to her nonverbal cues. That is most important. More on this next article, but you should be able to slide into a date with her easily if they are there.
How do we do this? Simple. Be direct with her.
– “Care to meet me for coffee sometime this next week?” — “Maybe we could meet again soon. May I have your phone number?”
Being indirect about it tends to create apprehension. I’m not a big fan of saying something like “I really enjoyed talking to you and would like to do so again.” I believe in getting to the point of the matter.
If you’ve made a strong enough impression, you might be lucky enough for her to ask YOU for your number. That happening is really rare though – so definitely don’t count on it! And sometimes when this happens, she is trying to actually get rid of you!
A sneaky trick that might be worth trying is to let her know that you like a woman who isn’t constrained by societal rules. Be it a “free spirit”, or a liberated woman, acknowledging that it is acceptable to be that way might just convince her to close you. But again, don’t count on it.
So be direct, and confident. If you’ve done your work, you have very little to fear in regards to rejection!
And this concludes the series on flirting, save for the next article. In that one, I’ll show you how to put it all together. Until then, practice!
